Before beginning to read I want you to know that you are a unique being who has so much value in this world, you are loved, you deserve to be here, you are worth it, please don’t believe anything opposite.
even when you are broken, you are magic.
the first habit is:
1. Comparison:
we are followed by the transparency of others, we are often too quick to pull down our unique blinds,
This bad habit of comparison leads to feelings of unworthiness, self-criticism, perfectionism, loneliness, intense discomfort, the urge to hide, and aggression towards our self or others. Instead of moving forward, we are feeling inferior to others and held by these restrictions.
since our childhood, we've been exposed to the vices of comparison from the social media world. we compare looks, beauty, success, career, finance growth, and so on. we think these people are perfect versions but the fact is, you are not aware of the obstacles other person has to travel through his or her journey, the tracks, the challenges, the swift lanes that lead to crashing, you never knew how is their life, what is about, what they’re dealing with, what are the hidden battles they face.
When we compare ourselves to others, we are automatically destroying ourselves.
you must know that Comparison can lead to, envy, jealousy, self-sabotage, self-pity, imposter syndrome, pride...
If you want a happier life you have to eliminate every form of comparison, you need to remind yourself that you are special and unique, you are not like anyone else, you have your own path to follow. Stop wasting your time by following others in their looks, the way they talk, their job, their laugh... instead try to find your own you.
2. Negative beliefs:
These negative beliefs can be built from assumptions, challenges, insecurities, criticisms, fear, and anxiety of the unknown. negative beliefs can easily change our life trips to miserable trips.
The first step to creating any change in life is to figure out these bad habits, you need to realize that change needs to happen, so start by acknowledging the bad habits.
what you should know about Negative beliefs is that they get bigger and stronger by feeding them.
People who project negativity typically have low self-esteem, they feel bad about themselves and their negativity.
It is simply a reflection of those feelings instead of entertaining and processing these negative thoughts, take charge and challenge them.
your mind is capable of anything; you just need to believe that you can. adopt positive declarations, instead of ushering in negativity with your words. rather than saying I’m not enough, ask yourself who profits off of insecurity and beauty standards?
stop saying I’ll never find love, and ask yourself how can I make more room for the love I already have?
stop saying I’m not good enough, and ask yourself how can I be good for myself right now?
stop saying I’m going to fail, and ask yourself since failure is inevitable in life, how can I let it be okay?
3. Unhealthy routine habits:
The routines we continually practise, play a huge impact in our lives, and most times we fail to employ positive routines to guide our daily activities.
We practice bad habits, we check our phones first thing in the morning, we consume too much sugar, we spend so much time on social media, we overuse painkillers, we do not drink water, we neglect our emotions.
The quality of your life is being summarized by the quality of your routine and the activities you indulge in daily. Every day you are making choices, you could choose to wake up early and do the thing you know you have to be doing at that moment or choose to fall back and find comfort in laziness.
so try next time to cut off these bad habits and begin with:
- Waking up early.
- Avoiding your phone first thing.
- hydration.
- Stating one thing you’re grateful for today.
- exercise.
- Don’t skip breakfast.
- Choose a podcast or relaxing music on your commute.
- Make your priority list before you check your emails.
- Breathe deeply before you start your workday
- Turn off your phone an hour before bed.
- Making a plan for every day.
- Reading positive affirmation out loud.
- Writing down everything you’re grateful for.
- relaxing your mind and body by practicing meditation.
4. Following the crowd:
you become worried about what others think of you, instead of acknowledging what you think of yourself.
you want others to like you, you seek external acceptance so you can get that feeling of a sense of worth.
The right thing you need to do is, strive for internal understanding and acceptance, you have to be authentic not following the crowd in making certain decisions in your lives, and build confidence.
Stop Focusing on meeting other people’s expectations
It’s really sad that a lot of us are wasting their life, seeking approval from others.
Always put in mind that:
your unique voice is necessary, the world needs it.
your soul might be exactly what someone needs.
You are always enough. Your fear doesn’t change that.
5. Seek For Perfection:
what Perfectionism says:
do more or do better, everyone has to like you, you can’t mess up, Imperfect is bad, our worth depends on your success
whereas self-compassion says:
You’re doing the best you can and it’s enough, it’s okay if/when you mess up, you have to like yourself, imperfect is the only option, and it's okay. Regardless of your success, your worth is already deep-rooted.
we only see the perfect side that social media shows, which leads many of us to depression, anxiety, and the feeling of inferiority.
so many people, including me, want every piece in the puzzle to be complete and properly laid and this delays our growth and improvement level.
Perfectionism may seem beneficial at the surface level but it can cause a lot of problems when it is properly analyzed, ;
If you are not allowing yourself to make mistakes, your skill development is perturbed. which is severe for your process of learning.
make it a rule, that no one is perfect, we get so many collections of perfection from Twitter, Instagram, the social sphere as a whole which automatically sets us on the edge of pressure.
You must get started, and allow yourself to make a mess, and embrace imperfections.
6. Not Forgiving Yourself:
It is for sure you will make mistakes. these mistakes are your life lessons. you need to learn from them, learn how to forgive yourself, and do not continually hold onto these dangerous emotions, they will affect your mindset negatively.
we have to forgive ourselves and learn from our mistakes. We have to learn to walk our way through pain from the past and mistakes, and accept the results no matter what they are, and not punish ourselves
consider making mistakes as part of our self-development and improvement.
make it a daily practice of strength, It is intentional preservation of inner peace and a reflection of a healthy self-concept.
Acknowledge your mistakes, explore your motivation, take responsibility, recognize the lessons you’ve learned, set clear boundaries, approach yourself with love, respect, and compassion, accept your humanity, and make amends if applicable.
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